Base Basics

Introduction to Base Basics

Base Basics is a mandatory class for anyone wanting to attend any of the other RPM classes. 

Base Basics is a comprehensive course designed to introduce you to the foundational principles and practices of safer and more effective rope techniques. This course is perfect for beginners and those looking to solidify their understanding of the basics before moving on to more advanced techniques. Our experienced instructors will guide you through hands-on practice, safety protocols, and the essential skills needed to build a strong foundation in rope work.

What You Will Learn

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A comprehensive introduction to the art and safety of rope tying. This class is designed for those eager to learn responsible rope tying techniques in a safe and supportive environment. Whether you are a beginner or looking to refine your skills, Base Basics covers essential knots, ties, and safety practices to ensure a fulfilling and secure experience.

Prerequisite: A desire to learn responsible rope tying techniques.

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We look forward to sharing this journey of learning and connection with you!

Basic Ties

Locking Single Column Ties (SCTs)

Bowline on a Larks Head (Reverse Tension)

  • Description: A Western style locking Single Column Tie (SCT).
  • Usage: Commonly used as the start of a tie. It prevents cinching and tourniquet effects.
  • Characteristics: This tie provides a secure foundation for more complex ties and is ideal for situations where movement might cause other ties to tighten. The reverse tension method ensures the rope remains in place without constricting the bound area.

Bula Bula

  • Description: A Japanese style locking SCT.
  • Usage: Known to be easy to tie, like tying your shoe. It uses a square knot locking mechanism which is quick and easy to tie and untie. While it may not be as reliable as some other knots, when properly tightened, it can be quite effective.
  • Characteristics: Special care needs to be taken to ensure one ties a proper square knot, and not a granny knot. A granny knot is more likely to collapse. You know you have a square knot if your ends want to go in the same direction as your cuff. This characteristic makes the Bula Bula tie both quick to secure and reliable when done correctly, but it requires careful attention to knot technique.

Non-Locking Single Column Ties (SCTs)

Larks-Head

  • Description: A non-locking SCT.
  • Usage: Often used as the initial tie but does not prevent cinching.
  • Characteristics: Simple and quick to apply, the Larks-Head is versatile for various applications. However, it requires careful monitoring to avoid unintentional tightening, making it less suitable for dynamic situations.

Hojo-Cuff

  • Description: A non-locking SCT, typically used for restraint.
  • Usage: Requires attention to prevent cinching and ensure it does not tighten unintentionally.
  • Characteristics: The Hojo-Cuff is effective for quick and secure restraints. It's essential to adjust it properly to maintain comfort and safety, especially during longer sessions or more active play.

Importance of Differentiating Locking vs. Non-Locking SCTs

  • Safety: Locking SCTs like the Bowline on a Larks Head and Bula Bula are essential for preventing cinching, which can cause injury.
  • Effectiveness: Non-locking SCTs such as the Larks-Head and Hojo-Cuff are quick to apply but require close monitoring to ensure they do not tighten unexpectedly.
  • Application: Understanding the differences allows practitioners to choose the appropriate tie for each scenario, ensuring safety and effectiveness in rope work.

These detailed descriptions of basic ties provide a solid foundation for safe and effective rope work, suitable for both beginners and those looking to refine their skills.

Safety and Risk Management

Physical Risks

Nerve and Pressure Points - Head to Toe

  • Head:

    • Hair: Only use rope on hair if it has been strengthened for this purpose. Avoid sudden pulls to prevent hair loss and scalp damage.
    • Axial Muscles: Avoid placing knots on the frontalis, temporalis, and occipital muscles to prevent headaches and muscle strain.
    • Eyes: Placing rope directly over the eyes can put pressure on the eyeballs, which can cause temporary vision impairment (blurred vision).
    • Jaw (TMJ): This joint allows for the opening and closing of the mouth. Avoid knots near the temporomandibular joint to prevent joint misalignment and damage. Pressure or knots near the TMJ can lead to joint misalignment, clicking, or even tearing of the tissues near the joint.
  • Neck:

    • Keep rope off the neck unless you have specific training in neck rope techniques to prevent choking and nerve damage .
  • Clavicle:

    • Avoid excessive pressure on the clavicle, as it only takes 5-9 ft lbs of pressure to break.
  • Ribs:

    • Avoid placing knots on the ribs, as they can break/crack with sufficient pressure.
    • Be cautious with the sternum, especially during chest harnesses, to avoid discomfort and potential injury. The xiphoid process, a small extension of the sternum, is particularly prone to breakage.
  • Puke Button:

    • Located just below the sternum, applying pressure here can cause nausea. Avoid placing rope in this area to prevent discomfort and potential vomiting.
  • Upper Arm:

    • Brachial Plexus: Avoid placing rope over the brachial plexus, which runs from the lower neck, under the clavicle, into the armpit. This can cause nerve damage leading to loss of sensation and movement in the arm.
    • Radial Nerve: Avoid the radial nerve, which runs along the back of the arm between the deltoid and bicept then crosses the inner elbow. Pressure here can cause wrist drop, where the wrist and hand cannot extend properly.
    • Ulnar Nerve: Avoid the ulnar nerve, known as the funny bone, which runs along the outside of the elbow and can cause significant pain and nerve damage .

  • Elbow, Elbow Pit and wrist: Avoid placing rope directly on the elbow joint and the anterior lower third of the forearm to prevent nerve damage and impaired movement.
  • Joints:

    • Avoid placing rope on all joints to prevent restricted blood flow and nerve damage.
  • Hip:

    • Place rope on the flat part of the hip bone to avoid nerves that run around the curved parts of the hip. This prevents nerve impingement and pain.
  • Femoral Nerve:

    • This nerve is located where the leg meets the torso. Pressure here can cause potential nerve damage, affecting sensation in the thigh.
  • Knee:

    • Avoid placing rope directly over the knee joint to prevent damage to the tendons and ligaments that support the knee. Single rope passes over the back of the knee should be avoided to prevent nerve and artery compression.
  • Peroneal Nerve:

    • Located near the "foot's anatomical snuff box", this nerve can cause intense pain if compressed. Avoid placing rope or pressure in this area to prevent injury.
  • Achilles Tendon:

    • The tibial nerve runs under this tendon. Pressure here can cause intense burning pain and weakness in foot movement.
  • Toes:

    • Avoid placing rope under the toes to prevent nerve impingement and discomfort.

Other Physical Risks

Dropping a Bottom or Being Dropped

  • Unavoidable Risk: The risk of dropping a bottom or being dropped cannot be entirely eliminated due to the consistency of gravity.
    • Personal Experience: Even experienced practitioners may encounter drops. One instructor mentioned dropping a partner for the first time after eight years of practice. The partner was only a few inches off the ground and sustained no injuries, but it highlighted the importance of being prepared for such incidents.
    • Emergency Response: Having a solid plan for emergencies, such as a quick release system and immediate first aid, is crucial. It’s essential to stay calm and manage the situation efficiently to ensure safety and maintain trust.

Rope Burn

  • Causes: Rope burn is typically caused by the combination of speed and pressure when the rope moves against the skin.
    • Speed vs. Pressure: While speed can cause rope burn, the amount of force applied is a more significant factor. Pressure from the rope, even when moving slowly, can result in severe burns. For example, a slow descent from a suspension still caused significant rope burn on a participant's ankles due to the pressure applied.
  • Prevention: To prevent rope burn, avoid situations where the rope is pulled with high force or speed. Ensure proper technique and be mindful of the rope’s movement against the skin.

Rope Marks

  • Types of Marks: Participants can experience various types of marks, including ligature marks, petechiae, bruising, and pressure marks.
    • Ligature Marks: These are typical and appear where the rope was in contact with the skin.
    • Petechiae: Small red spots, often appearing as freckles, caused by pressure that breaks capillaries. These can occur on the face or shoulders during certain ties.
    • Bruising: Caused by the force exerted by the rope, leading to broken blood vessels under the skin.
    • Long-lasting Marks: Some marks, particularly those caused by high pressure or specific rope types like coconut rope, can last much longer. One participant noted that marks lasted for about nine months and resembled a tribal tattoo.
    • Skin Adaptation: Over time, the body may adapt to rope use, reducing the likelihood of marks as capillaries strengthen and the vascular system adapts. Initially, however, marks can be prominent and long-lasting.

Social Risks

Outing Risks:

  • Unintended Exposure: Engaging in rope activities can sometimes lead to unintended exposure, where your involvement becomes known to others who might not be understanding or supportive.
    • Example: An incident where an individual lost his entire career and social circle due to being outed. The repercussions were severe, affecting his personal and professional life.
    • Management: It’s crucial to manage privacy and be mindful of sharing information about your rope activities. Always seek explicit consent before sharing any media or information that could identify participants.

Risk to Reputation:

  • Social Stigma: Participation in rope activities can carry social stigma, impacting personal and professional relationships.
    • Example: There have been cases where reputations were damaged due to public exposure of one's involvement in rope activities. This can result in being banned from social groups or events.
    • Trust and Vetting: Trust is paramount. Ensure that you can trust your partner not just with your physical well-being but also with your social well-being. Be cautious of who you tie with and ensure they are trustworthy.
    • Vetting Partners: Be careful of bottoms that flit around from top to top without vetting their partners first. It’s important to ensure that the people you tie with can provide the experience you want and are reliable and discreet .

Mental Risks

Triggers and Emotional Reactions

  • Triggers:

    • Known Triggers: Discuss any known triggers related to PTSD, anxiety, or other mental health conditions. This includes specific situations, words, or actions that might cause a strong emotional response.
    • Unknown Triggers: Be prepared for the possibility that new triggers might emerge during a scene. Establish a plan for how to handle unexpected emotional reactions.
  • Emotional Reactions:

    • Claustrophobia: Some participants may experience claustrophobia when tied or restrained. Discuss comfort levels and ensure a quick release method is in place.
    • Fear of Falling: Even if not afraid of heights, the sensation of falling can trigger a strong fear response. This is particularly relevant in suspension scenes.
    • Managing Panic: If a participant becomes overwhelmed or panicked, have strategies in place to soothe and de-escalate the situation. For example, taking steps back and giving space to the affected person can help calm them down .

Rope as Therapy

  • Complementary, Not Replacement: While rope play can complement therapy by providing physical and emotional release, it should not be used as a replacement for professional mental health treatment. Rope play can poke at and play with various traumas, but it’s essential to have a proper therapeutic environment for dealing with those feelings and issues.
  • Safe Space for Emotions: Having a system and space where participants feel safe discussing their emotions is crucial. This includes having the language to articulate feelings and ensuring that all participants are comfortable expressing themselves .

Drop

  • Physical and Emotional Drop:

    • Definition: Drop refers to the emotional and physical crash that can occur after an intense scene. This is due to the body’s depletion of adrenaline, dopamine, serotonin, and other chemicals.
    • Symptoms: Participants may feel depressed, lethargic, or disconnected from the world. Symptoms can include crying, feelings of worthlessness, or questioning the activity's value.
    • Management: Post-scene aftercare should address drop by providing comfort, reassurance, and methods to help the body replenish its chemicals. This can include eating comfort foods, talking about the experience, or engaging in light physical activity to boost serotonin levels .
  • Supplementation and Recommendations:

    • Melatonin: Taking 1.5 mg of melatonin the night of the play can help the body create serotonin during sleep, replenishing serotonin levels for the next day. This helps participants feel more connected and less lethargic .
    • 5-HTP: This supplement can be taken around dinner time and helps the body produce serotonin. It is less likely to cause drowsiness and can help maintain serotonin levels without the pressure of immediate sleep. Disclaimer: Consult with a healthcare provider before taking 5-HTP, especially if you are on medication for depression, anxiety, or ADHD, as it can interact with other medications and cause adverse effects.
    • Hydration and Nutrition: Ensure participants are well-hydrated and have eaten adequately before and after the scene. Keep snacks like trail mix or protein bars handy to maintain energy levels .

Managing Mental Health Conditions

  • Anxiety and PTSD:
    • Triggers: Discuss any specific triggers related to anxiety or PTSD. Establish a plan for how to handle them if they arise during a scene.
    • Safe Words and Signals: Ensure clear communication methods are in place for participants to express discomfort or the need to stop.
  • Depression and Emotional Well-being:
    • Communication: Maintain ongoing communication to monitor the participant's emotional state.
    • Support Systems: Ensure that participants have access to support systems outside the scene, including friends, family, or mental health professionals.

By thoroughly addressing these mental risks during the negotiation process, participants can ensure a safer and more supportive environment, minimizing the risk of psychological harm and enhancing overall well-being.

Spiritual Risks

Growth, Bonding, and Connection:

  • Deep Personal Growth: Engaging in rope activities can lead to deep personal growth, bonding, and intense connections with others.
    • Catching Feelz: For some, this means developing strong emotional attachments. Rope activities can create powerful emotional bonds that may lead to romantic feelings.
    • Addiction to Experience or Person: The intense nature of the experience can sometimes lead to a dependency on the activity or the person involved. This can become problematic if the emotional attachment becomes one-sided or unhealthy.
    • Connection Risks: There is a risk that a connection will be built and strengthened through the rope scene. This is why it's important not to tie or "scene" with anyone you don’t want a connection with.
  • Reduction in Sadistic and Masochistic Tendencies:

    • Decreased Desires: Engaging in rope activities can sometimes lead to a reduction in sadistic or masochistic desires over time. This growth/evolution might occur as participants explore their limits and find that their initial tendencies shift or diminish.
      • Impact on Dynamics: This reduction in desires can affect the dynamics of existing relationships, particularly if one partner's needs change while the other's remain the same.
      • Adaptation and Communication: It's important to communicate these changes and adapt to new dynamics. Open discussions about evolving desires and boundaries can help maintain a healthy relationship.

    By understanding and addressing these spiritual risks, participants can better navigate the complexities of emotional and spiritual connections formed through rope activities, ensuring a balanced and fulfilling experience.

Medical Considerations

Chronic Illnesses:

  • Diabetes: Ensure blood sugar levels are monitored and have glucose tablets or snacks available. Be aware of signs of hypoglycemia and how to address them.
  • Asthma: Have inhalers readily accessible and ensure the environment is free from asthma triggers. Sometimes natural fiber rope can aggravate asthma.
  • Fibromyalgia: Recognize that participants may have heightened sensitivity to pain and pressure. Adjust activities to accommodate their comfort levels and ensure quick release mechanisms are in place.

Previous Injuries:

  • Skeletal Injuries: Be aware of previously dislocated joints, broken bones, or other skeletal injuries. Avoid placing pressure on these areas to prevent further injury.

Skin Conditions:

  • Sensitive Skin: Participants with conditions such as eczema or psoriasis may require softer ropes and hypoallergenic materials to prevent irritation.
  • Infections: Ensure any open wounds or skin infections are covered and protected to prevent exacerbation.
  • New Tattoos: Avoid tying over new tattoos to prevent irritation and ensure proper healing.
  • Dermals and Piercings: Check for any recent piercings or dermal implants as ropes can catch on these and cause significant pain or damage if not handled carefully .

Implants and Medical Devices:

  • Pacemakers and Defibrillators: Avoid placing pressure or ropes near the chest area where these devices are implanted.
  • Diabetic Pumps and Insulin Devices: Ensure ropes do not interfere with the operation or placement of these devices.
  • Birth Control Implants: Avoid tying or placing pressure near the arm area where the implant is located to prevent discomfort and potential dislodgement.

Allergies:

  • Material Sensitivities: Be aware of any allergies or sensitivities to materials used in ropes (e.g., natural fibers may aggravate certain skin conditions) .

Seizure Disorders:

  • Seizure Preparedness: If a participant has a history of seizures, establish a clear plan for managing a seizure during the scene.
    • Contingency Plans: Include having a safe call setup, access to emergency medical services, and knowing how to respond to a seizure. Ensure all participants are informed and prepared .

Low Blood Pressure and Fainting:

  • Hypotension: Participants with low blood pressure may be prone to fainting. Ensure they are well-hydrated and have eaten adequately before the scene.
    • Recognize Signs: Be aware of signs of fainting, such as dizziness or lightheadedness, and be prepared to support the participant safely.

Mental Health Conditions:

  • Anxiety and PTSD: Discuss any triggers and establish safe words or signals to manage anxiety or PTSD symptoms. Be prepared to pause or stop the scene if needed.
  • Depression and Emotional Well-being: Ensure ongoing communication and provide emotional support as needed. Plan for aftercare that includes mental health support .

Emergency Response:

  • First Aid Training: At least one participant should have basic first aid training, including CPR and how to address common injuries or medical emergencies.
  • Emergency Contacts: Have a list of emergency contacts and relevant medical information readily accessible.
  • Nearby Medical Facilities: Know the location of the nearest medical facility and the quickest route to get there in case of a severe emergency.

By thoroughly addressing these medical considerations during the negotiation process, participants can ensure a safer and more comfortable experience, minimizing the risk of medical emergencies and enhancing overall well-being.

Chemicals and Hormones at Play

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  • Cortisol: While cortisol is known as the stress hormone, it can be harnessed to enhance the intensity of the scene. Understanding how to safely elevate and manage stress levels can add an exciting edge to rope play. Use techniques like controlled breathwork and gradual tension build-up to create a heightened sense of alertness and focus, making the experience more exhilarating for both partners. Ensure proper aftercare to help the body and mind recover from elevated cortisol levels post-scene.

  • Dopamine: Often associated with pleasure and reward, dopamine can be stimulated through anticipation and the fulfillment of desires during rope play. Building suspense, offering rewards, and creating pleasurable experiences can increase dopamine levels, enhancing the sense of satisfaction and enjoyment for both participants. Incorporate elements of surprise and reward to keep dopamine levels high and the experience engaging.

  • Adrenaline: Adrenaline provides the rush of excitement or fear, which can be used to heighten the thrill of rope play. Activities that involve quick movements, suspense, or elements of risk can trigger adrenaline release, adding to the intensity of the scene. Use this hormone to your advantage by creating scenarios that safely push boundaries and induce a natural high. Ensure that aftercare includes calming activities to bring adrenaline levels back to normal.

  • Serotonin: Serotonin stabilizes mood and contributes to feelings of well-being and happiness. Rope play that involves positive reinforcement, touch, and mutual enjoyment can boost serotonin levels, leading to a more harmonious and emotionally satisfying experience. Create a supportive and affirming environment to maintain high serotonin levels, promoting a sense of contentment and connection.

  • Endorphins: Known as the body's natural painkillers, endorphins can create a sense of euphoria and relaxation during and after rope play. Intense physical activities, such as sustained tying and pressure, can trigger endorphin release, enhancing the pleasurable aspects of rope play while reducing discomfort. Use endorphins to your advantage by incorporating activities that build up to a release of these hormones, providing both relief and pleasure.

  • Oxytocin: Often referred to as the "bonding hormone," oxytocin enhances feelings of connection and trust between partners. Activities that involve close physical contact, eye contact, and mutual care can increase oxytocin levels, deepening emotional bonds. Use oxytocin to foster a sense of intimacy and trust, making the rope play experience more meaningful and connected. Ensure that aftercare focuses on nurturing this bond, reinforcing the feelings of safety and affection.

This approach to understanding and utilizing these hormones can help create a more dynamic and fulfilling rope play experience, enhancing both physical and emotional connections.

Anatomical Considerations

Circulatory Concerns:

Neck:

  • No Neck Rope: Rope should be kept off the neck unless you have taken a specific neck rope class. Any shoulder ties that might push into the neck should be positioned so as to avoid pressing on the blood supply or nerves in the neck.
    • Risk: Improperly applied neck rope can lead to severe injury or worse. For those interested in neck rope techniques, specialized training is available.

Blood Supply and Circulatory Concerns:

  • Circulatory Numbness vs. Nerve Issues: Discoloration of the skin due to restricted blood flow is generally not an issue, but numbness can hide underlying nerve problems. It is essential to monitor for numbness as it indicates potential nerve impingement.
    • Example: In a demonstration, a participant’s arms turned purple and went numb within three minutes. While discoloration alone is not problematic, the numbness can obscure more serious nerve concerns. The main concern with circulatory numbness is that it can hide nerve issues.
    • Oxygen Depletion: When blood flow is restricted, oxygenated blood is used up, leading to discoloration. This needs monitoring to prevent complications. After prolonged scenes, participants often move and transition, which helps maintain circulation and prevent oxygen depletion.

Hand & Nerve Checks:

  • Purpose: Hand checks are essential to monitor nerve function and ensure no impingement is occurring. This helps distinguish between circulatory numbness and nerve issues.
  • Techniques:
    • Wrist Flexion: If participants can bend their wrists and touch their first 2 fingers to their thumb, it indicates that all three major nerves are functioning correctly.
    • Thumbs Up: A thumbs-up gesture checks the radial nerve.
    • Finger Guns: Making a finger-gun gesture checks the radial nerve.
    • Middle Finger: Extending the middle finger checks the median nerve.
    • Weird Bunnies: Making bunny ears with the pinky and ring fingers checks the ulnar nerve.
    • Gentle Sparkle Fingers: Gentle movement of the fingers, without quick or forceful motion, ensures that circulatory numbness does not worsen and that blood flow remains adequate . Don't do Jazz-Hands.
  • Grip Strength: At the beginning of a scene, check the participant's grip strength by having them squeeze your fingers. During the scene, periodically check again to ensure strength remains intact. If any fingers do not respond or if the grip weakens, it indicates potential nerve impingement, and immediate action is necessary.

Circulation and Oxygenation:

  • Oxygen Depletion or : When blood flow is restricted, oxygenated blood is used up, leading to discoloration. While this is not immediately dangerous, it needs monitoring to prevent complications. Certain medical conditions may increase risk.
    • Example: During prolonged scenes, participants often move and transition, which helps maintain circulation and prevent oxygen depletion. However, continuous monitoring and adjustments are necessary to ensure safety .

By incorporating these detailed anatomical considerations and regularly performing hand checks, participants can significantly reduce the risk of injury and ensure a safer and more enjoyable rope experience.

Bones:

  • Lack of Sensory Feedback: Bones do not have sensors to indicate when they are about to break, making it essential to avoid shear forces that can lead to fractures.
    • Example: Arm-wrestling incidents illustrate this well. During intense arm-wrestling matches, participants often experience sudden bone breaks without prior warning. The absence of sensory feedback in bones means they can sustain significant damage without immediate pain or indication.
    • Avoiding Shear Forces: Shear forces occur when opposing forces act on the same bone. For instance, if one person is pulling one way and another person pulls the opposite way on the same bone, it can easily lead to a break. Therefore, in rope activities, it’s crucial to avoid creating these shear forces.
      • Immobilization Technique: To immobilize a body part safely, tie on different bones so that there is a joint in between. Joints have sensors that provide feedback when there is too much pressure. This method allows the joint to act as a buffer and communicate when there is excessive pressure, preventing bone damage.
    • Recommendation: When securing limbs, always ensure that the force is distributed in a way that joints are between the points of tension. This helps in using the body’s natural feedback mechanisms to avoid injury.

By incorporating these detailed anatomical considerations, including the crucial understanding of bone safety and avoiding shear forces, participants can significantly reduce the risk of injury and ensure a safer and more effective rope play experience .

Consent, Negotiation & Aftercare

Consent

Definition: Explicit informed consent means a clear "yes" without pressure or coercion. Consent is not the absence of a "no"; it is the presence of a "yes" with the absence of pressure or coercion. Consent is an active agreement to engage in specific activities, ensuring that all participants are fully aware and comfortable with what will occur.
  • Active and Ongoing: Consent must be actively given and can be withdrawn at any time. It's an ongoing process that requires continuous communication and agreement.
  • Physical Contact:

    • No Touching Without Asking: Always seek explicit consent before any physical contact, including hugs or touches.
      • Guideline: Respect personal boundaries and ensure that all touch is consensual.

    Planned Activities:

    • Stick to the Plan: Discuss and agree on all planned activities before starting. If new ideas arise during the scene, save them for future discussions to ensure comfort and consent.
      • Guideline: "Stick with the plan" to maintain trust and safety.

    Acceptance of Risk:

    • Understanding Risks: Consent to activities involves acknowledging and accepting potential risks. Ensure all participants understand the risks and agree to proceed.
      • Quote: "If you only consent to things going well, you are not actually consenting at all."

    Photo and Video Policy:

    • Consent for Media: Obtain explicit consent for taking and sharing photos and videos. Discuss and agree on the use, storage, and distribution of any media captured.
      • Guideline: Ensure everyone in the photo or video has given their express consent before capturing or sharing media.
    • Posting Guidelines: Before posting any media online, get the explicit consent of everyone featured to avoid accidental outing or privacy breaches.

    Negotiation and Safety:

    • Communication: Open, honest, and ongoing communication is crucial. Ensure all parties understand and agree to the activities, limits, and expectations.
      • Guideline: Prioritize clear communication to prevent misunderstandings and ensure safety.
    • Handling Surprises: Stick to the negotiated plan. If new ideas come up, save them for future scenes unless there is a high level of trust and mutual understanding and established "Blanket Consent".
      • Guideline: Complete the negotiated plan first to maintain trust and safety.

Negotiation

Definition: Negotiation is the pre-scene discussion of intentions, boundaries, and expectations between all participants. It is essential to ensure clear communication and understanding before starting any practical activities. This process helps build trust, prevents misunderstandings, and sets the stage for a safe and enjoyable experience.

Comprehensive List of Negotiation Topics:

  1. Intentions and Boundaries:

    • Goals: Discuss what each participant wants to achieve from the scene. Understanding the motivations and desired outcomes helps align expectations and create a fulfilling experience.
    • Hard Limits: Clearly define non-negotiable boundaries. These are activities or areas that are completely off-limits for the participants.
    • Soft Limits: Identify activities or areas that may be explored with caution. These limits require ongoing communication and may change based on comfort levels during the scene.
    • Experience Levels: Share your experience and skill levels in rope work to ensure that activities are within the capabilities of all participants.
  2. Communication During the Scene:

    • Safe Words: Establish clear safe words or signals to indicate different levels of discomfort or the need to stop the scene immediately.
      • Green: Everything is fine.
      • Yellow: Slow down or check in.
      • Red: Stop immediately.
    • Non-Verbal Signals: Agree on non-verbal signals for situations where participants may be gagged or unable to speak.
  3. Consent:

    • Informed Consent: Ensure that all participants fully understand and agree to the activities planned. This includes discussing the potential risks and obtaining explicit consent for each activity.
    • Ongoing Consent: Emphasize that consent is an ongoing process and can be withdrawn at any time. Participants should feel comfortable voicing their concerns or changing their mind.
  4. Health and Safety Considerations:

    • Medical Conditions: Discuss any medical conditions, allergies, or injuries that may affect the scene. This includes conditions such as asthma, diabetes, heart conditions, or previous injuries.
    • Seizure Plans: If a participant is prone to seizures, have a clear plan in place. This includes having a safe call setup or technology like Life Alert and ensuring all participants know how to respond.
    • Emergency Contacts: Share emergency contact information and any necessary medical information that may be needed in case of an emergency.
    • Hydration and Nutrition: Ensure participants are well-hydrated and have eaten adequately before the scene to prevent fainting or other health issues.
  5. Physical Safety:

    • Placement and Pressure: Discuss and agree on the placement of ropes and the amount of pressure that is safe acceptable.
    • Duration: Set limits on how long participants will be bound to prevent circulation issues and discomfort.
    • Breaks: Plan for regular breaks to check on comfort and safety.
  6. Emotional and Psychological Safety:

    • Triggers: Identify and discuss any psychological triggers that participants may have. Agree on how to handle situations if these triggers are activated.
    • Support and Aftercare: Plan for emotional support during and after the scene. This includes discussing aftercare needs and ensuring that participants feel safe and cared for.
  7. Roles and Dynamics:

    • Top/Bottom Dynamics: Clearly define the roles of each participant. Discuss expectations for behavior, control, and responsibility during the scene.
    • Switching Roles: If participants are open to switching roles, discuss how and when this might happen.
  8. Scene Content:

    • Activities: Create a detailed outline of the planned activities. This helps ensure that everyone knows what to expect and can prepare accordingly.
    • Scenarios and Themes: Discuss any specific scenarios or themes that will be part of the scene. Ensure that all participants are comfortable with the content.
  9. Logistics:

    • Location: Agree on the location of the scene and ensure it is safe, private, and appropriate for the planned activities.
    • Duration: Set a time limit for the scene, including time for setup, the main activities, and aftercare.
    • Safety Equipment: Ensure that all necessary safety equipment, such as rope cutters, first-aid kits, and hydration supplies, are readily available.
  10. Financial Considerations:

    • Cost of Injuries: Discuss who will be responsible for medical expenses if an injury occurs. Ensure all participants are aware of and agree to this arrangement.
    • Insurance: Check if participants have insurance that covers potential injuries related to rope activities.
  11. Photo and Video Consent:

    • Media Policy: Obtain explicit consent for taking and sharing photos and videos. Discuss how these will be used, stored, and shared. Ensure that all parties are comfortable with the arrangements to protect privacy and maintain trust.
    • Announcement and Respect: If photos or videos are to be taken, announce this to all present. Ensure that people who do not want to be in the media can opt-out by staying out of frame or being silent if they prefer their voices not to be recorded.
  12. Aftercare:

    • Physical Needs: Discuss the physical aspects of aftercare, such as hydration, nutrition, and treatment for any minor injuries.
    • Emotional Support: Plan for emotional reassurance and comfort, such as cuddling, talking, or quiet time together.
    • Long-Term Care: Consider follow-up care in the days after the scene to check on the emotional and physical well-being of all participants.

By thoroughly covering these negotiation topics, participants can ensure a safer, more enjoyable, and mutually satisfying rope experience. Clear communication, respect for boundaries, and thorough planning are key to successful and fulfilling scenes.

Aftercare

Definition: Aftercare is the post-scene physical and emotional care provided to ensure the well-being of all participants following rope activities. This process is essential for managing the physical strain and emotional impacts of the scene, promoting recovery, and reinforcing trust and connection.

Components of Aftercare:

  1. Hydration:

    • Importance: Replenishing fluids lost during intense physical activity helps prevent dehydration, which can exacerbate fatigue and hinder recovery.
    • Best Practices: Provide water or electrolyte drinks immediately after the scene. Avoid caffeinated or alcoholic beverages, as they can further dehydrate the body.

  1. Nutrition:

    • Importance: Consuming food after a scene helps restore energy levels and supports overall recovery.
    • Best Practices: Offer light, nutritious snacks such as protein bars, granola, fruit, or trail mix. Having a small meal or snack within an hour of the scene can significantly aid in physical recovery​​ .
  1. Checking for Injuries:

    • Importance: Promptly identifying and addressing any injuries prevents complications and ensures proper healing.
    • Best Practices: Perform a thorough body scan to check for rope marks, bruises, or signs of nerve compression. Use first-aid supplies, such as ice packs, bandages, and antiseptics, to treat minor injuries. Be vigilant for symptoms like numbness, tingling, or pain that may indicate nerve damage .
  2. Providing Comfort:

    • Importance: Emotional reassurance and physical comfort help transition from the intense experiences of the scene to a state of relaxation and safety.
    • Best Practices:
      • Emotional Support: Offer words of reassurance, gentle touch, or a calming presence. Listening and allowing the person to express their feelings is crucial.
      • Physical Comfort: Provide warm blankets, comfortable seating or lying down areas, and soft lighting to create a soothing environment. Activities such as cuddling, holding, or gentle massage can also be comforting .
  3. Supplements and Medication:

    • Importance: Supplements and medications can help manage the physiological aftereffects of a scene, such as stress and muscle tension.
    • Best Practices:
      • Melatonin: Recommended for improving sleep quality, which is essential for recovery. Taking 1.5 milligrams of melatonin can aid in serotonin production during sleep, helping restore emotional balance .
      • Magnesium: Helps relax muscles and reduce soreness. Epsom salt baths or magnesium supplements can be particularly effective for muscle recovery .
  4. Mental Health Support:

    • Importance: Managing the emotional aftermath of a scene is as important as addressing physical needs.
    • Best Practices: Engage in activities that promote relaxation and mental well-being, such as watching a favorite movie, listening to calming music, or spending quiet time together. Talking about the experience with a trusted partner or friend can also help process emotions and reinforce the connection .
  5. Rest and Recovery:

    • Importance: Adequate rest allows the body and mind to recover from the physical and emotional demands of the scene.
    • Best Practices: Encourage a full night’s sleep and provide a comfortable environment for rest. Consider the use of sleep aids, like melatonin, to enhance sleep quality and ensure the body’s natural recovery processes are optimized .
  6. Follow-Up:

    • Importance: Ensuring ongoing support and monitoring after the initial aftercare can help address any delayed reactions or emerging issues.
    • Best Practices: Schedule a follow-up conversation or check-in within a day or two after the scene to discuss how each person is feeling, address any lingering issues, and reinforce the care and connection established during aftercare .

Implementing thorough and compassionate aftercare practices not only helps mitigate the physical and emotional impacts of rope activities but also strengthens the trust and bond between participants, creating a safe and supportive environment for future experiences.

Respecting the Rope Scene Space

When engaging in rope scenes, it’s crucial to respect the designated space and the activities taking place within it. This ensures safety, maintains the intended atmosphere, and upholds the integrity of the scene for all participants. Here are detailed considerations and guidelines for maintaining the rope scene space.

Defining the Scene Space:

  • Space Allocation: Ensure a good amount of room is allocated for the scene. Rope scenes that require movement and space to roll around or dance, will benifit from a clearly defined area.
    • Example: Often, participants will take some rope and make a border or set up a sign to indicate the scene space. This visual cue helps others recognize the boundaries of the scene.

Respecting the Scene:

  • Understanding the Start of a Scene: Often, the scene starts earlier than it may appear. Preparation and getting into the right headspace are part of the scene for a lot of people. Intervening at this stage, even if it seems nothing has started, can disrupt the flow and mental state of the participants.
    • Example: A friend might come in and start talking to someone who appears to be just sitting alone, not realizing the scene has already started. This unintentional interruption can disrupt the participant’s mental preparation.

Avoiding Unwanted Interventions:

  • Unsolicited Advice: While it is becoming less common, unsolicited advice or comments from well-meaning individuals during a scene can be particularly problematic. Offering advice to a rigger while they are working, especially if they have a model suspended, is considered rude and inappropriate.
    • Example: Advising a rigger on tying techniques while they have a model in the air can be dangerous and disruptive. It’s best to wait until after the scene to offer any suggestions. This ensures the rigger can maintain full focus on safety and the experience of the model without unnecessary interruptions.

Communicating Boundaries:

  • Polite Requests: If someone unintentionally interrupts a scene, it’s important to address it politely but firmly. Let them know that the scene has started and that their presence or comments are disrupting it.
    • Example: Kindly inform them, “Hey, you’re interrupting a scene. This is rude. Please leave us alone for now. I’d be happy to talk to you afterward.”

Maintaining the Atmosphere:

  • Role of Onlookers: Onlookers should respect the scene by keeping a reasonable distance and refraining from engaging with the participants unless explicitly invited.
    • Example: Onlookers should avoid entering the defined scene space or distracting the participants with questions or comments.

Equipment and Preparation

Rope and Hardware

  • Rope Types and Characteristics:

    • Jute:

      • Properties: Jute acts like a plant. It's airy, light, and almost papery in the way it moves. Jute rope is typically lighter than other ropes and provides a unique texture and feel during rope play.
      • Strength: A single jute rope has a lifting capability of 450 lbs, making it more than strong enough for most suspension work.
      • Usage: Suitable for many types of ties and harnesses, particularly those requiring a lighter rope like performance.
    • Hemp:

      • Properties: Hemp acts more like fabric, being heavier and having more substance compared to jute. It feels more cloth-like and substantial in the hand.
      • Strength: Hemp rope is roughly double the strength of jute, offering increased safety and reliability.
      • Usage: Ideal for those who prefer a heavier rope with a more substantial feel. Commonly used in various bondage techniques.
    • Synthetic Ropes:

      • Nylon and Mule Tape:
        • Properties: These ropes are smooth, strong, and less likely to create friction burns compared to natural fibers. They slide past each other without pinching the skin, reducing the risk of undesirable surface sensations.
        • Usage: Excellent for intense sensory play and for those who seek deeper muscle sensations rather than skin discomfort.
      • Coconut Rope:
        • Properties: Coconut rope is intentionally rough and irritating, originally designed as a deterrent for garden pests. It's made from shorter fibers and provides a highly intense and often uncomfortable sensation.
        • Usage: Used for those who enjoy intense, scratchy sensations. Typically reserved for advanced users who appreciate its unique feel.

    Rope Safety and Maintenance:

    • Inspection: Regularly inspect your ropes for signs of wear and tear, such as fraying or weakening fibers. Replace ropes that show significant wear to ensure safety.
    • Cleaning: Follow specific cleaning guidelines for each type of rope. Natural fibers like jute and hemp may require hand washing and air drying, while synthetic ropes can often be machine washed.
    • Storage: Store ropes in a cool, dry place, coiled neatly to prevent kinks and unnecessary wear.

    Safety Equipment:

    • Cutting Tools: Always have a pair of safety shears on hand in case you need to quickly release someone from the ropes. Avoid using sharp knives or tools that can cause injury.
    • First Aid Kit: Keep a basic first aid kit nearby, including bandages, antiseptic wipes, and other essentials to address minor injuries or abrasions.
    • Comfort Items: Have items like blankets, pillows, and water available to ensure comfort and provide immediate aftercare if needed.

    Tips for Reducing Weight:

    • Efficient Packing: Rope bags can become heavy, so consider only bringing the essential ropes and equipment you need for the scene.
    • Synthetic Options: Opt for lighter synthetic ropes if weight is a concern, as they can significantly reduce the overall load.

    By understanding the different types of ropes and their properties, participants can choose the best equipment for their needs, ensuring both safety and a pleasurable experience during rope activities. Proper maintenance and safety precautions further enhance the reliability and longevity of the equipment.